Justice For Families

hes 19 months and have a solicitor

I consider putting a child in care for a fathers DV as punishing the child directly for another persons violence.
They're punishing you, for leaving a violent partner.
That's how unhinged and "cult like" the SS policies have become.


1. You've suffered enough in the first place.
2. You took the right action. You left, this should be a free start for you both.
3. They put your child in care
4. they push you both through separation
5. then they want to dish out a double life sentence to your son, via forced adoption.

A murderer wouldn't get treated like this.

And an innocent child certainly shouldn't be.

Do you still see the older children on a regular basis? and does the younger child see his older siblings?

Challenge the diagnosis immediately and insist on a second opinion from someone who knows what they are doing.

It is used by the SS all the time as it is in fact quite serious but can be a very general diagnosis.

See this list;-

BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

http://www.narsad.org/news/newsletter/r ... 99bdp.html


NARSAD Research Letter Archive


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline ... y_disorder

Article From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Book ... sorder.htm

Mind article – very good

http://www.health.am/psy/more/borderlin ... otherapies

Link to Psychanalysis, overinvolvment (emotional abuse) and neglect

http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.c ... erson2.htm

More links to Psychoanalysis – the failure to separate the self-image from the mother and the “false self”

http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2007/10/ ... ne_pe.html

BPD - What it Really Means

my eldest children visit as and when they like they are 14 and 16 the middle ones am only allowed to see 3 times a year the elder children can only see ethan in school holidays if it falls on my contact ss will not pay someone to work on a saturday to promote regular contact though i know they could do i was gagged from being honest to middle children as was threatened my contact would cease up until final hearing for them they were saying my kids played up after contact hence the recommendation that i only see them 3 times a year my children said all the time when can we go home

re borderline personality disorder firstly an expert psychologist diagnosed it by making me fill in questionaires? then 2 expert psychiatrists said same though did say it was dormant and had improved dramatically but now im on injections for pmt amother psychiatrist has said he wants to review bpd diagnosis in 6 months as injections have worked very well so far
i had counselling for sexual abuse today from wen i was younger and counsellor was amazed i had not been offered any counselling or pschologist she is trained in bereavement and loss and said it my feelings were perfectly normal after losing my kids

Suicide watch would have saved patient
By Paul Jenkins
A REPORT into the death of a woman patient at a Stafford hospital says she could have been saved had staff checked on her overnight.

An internal investigation is being carried out into the death of a 28-year-old Willow Simpson who was found by staff at St George's Hospital hanging from the window in her room on February 12 this year.

A Cannock inquest into her death heard an independent report which said Miss Simpson should have been on suicide watch after two previous attempts to take her own life.

It also criticised the system of checks on patients at the hospital and the lack of information on individuals given to staff after it found Miss Simpson had been told only seven days earlier that her son was being given up for adoption and she was unlikely to see him again.

The author of the report, independent case worker Julie Lloyd Roberts, said: "Miss Simpson relocated from Wales to Stafford in 2003 when a relationship broke down and she sufferered deteriorating health.

"In April 2006, she was re-admitted to St George's' Brocton Ward after an earlier short spell in the hospital.

"After seven months on the ward, she was coming to the end of her period there and the mental health team were looking to place her in supported accommodation.

"She had a meeting with social workers on February 7 to finalise the adoption process for her young son and was told she would have to apply for access to see him and there was nothing she could do to stop the proceedings.

"Staff on the ward didn't notice her subsequent change of mood and there was no allowance for the possible risk to her health after the outcome of the meeting.

"She should have been on suicide watch after two previous attempts and was completely irrational and very ill at the time of her death.

"Checks were not made on her overnight and I have no doubt she would still be alive if they had been. "I realise the system of checks had been relaxed because of concerns from female patients about privacy and the noise of the doors opening, but their health and wellbeing should have overcome these complaints."

Stanley Nevin, a health care support worker who was on duty the night before Miss Simpson died, said she had seemed fine and was smiling and chatting in the lounge before going to bed at midnight.

But when he went to wake her up at 7.15am the next morning he found the door locked and had to get his colleague to open it.

They subsequently found her hanging from a window in her bathroom and were unable to revive her.

He admitted he had not checked on her overnight between midnight and 7.15am and was not aware of the meeting she had recently had with her social worker.

But he said there was no fixed system of checks on patients and when it was felt necessary to check on them, it was not every 15 miutes, but more like every hour.

Coroner Andrew Haigh, in recording an open verdict, said it was clear Miss Simpson had killed herself but she was more upset than she appeared after the meeting with social workers and it may have been a cry for help.

He said the health care trust which runs the hospital had been criticised in the report for the haphazard distribution of information and system of checks, and this was being actively investigated.

Amanda Godfrey from South Staffordshire and Shropshire NHS Trust said it took incidents of this kind very seriously.

She said: "Any untoward incident is thoroughly investigated in line with our procedures and the trust endeavours to learn from and improve services as a result of such events.

"As an organisation, we also welcome the opportunity to receive feedback from users of our services, their carers and families and take their views very seriously."


THIS WOMAN WAS TREATED AT THE SAME HOSPITAL I HAVE BEEN IN AND OUT OF SINCE LOSING MY KIDS

RIP WILLOW

just wanted to say thanks for your support anyone interested in doing a march on febuary 12th in willow simpsons memory?

I will march with you. But not on that day as I am busy. Does it need to be that day 4 a specific reason?

its the anniversary of her death

The way Bio-polar is now being diagnosed is alarming, as it is leading to wrongful removal of children .

I don't know the exact details of your case, however I am posting some of my thoughts here for you, based losely on my own experiences and knowledge. I hope it may be of use to you, even if it is that you are not alone in your circumstances.

The great diagnonsense of BPD or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder: Borderline Type, or Complex PTSD, as is the best title used by Mind & most private healthcare organisations. I personally prefer the latter. Welcome to the club, the 'I am Normal Club'. BPD in itself is such a broad spectrum, all differing levels of functioning etc. What are the assessments saying is your biggest problem with the PD?? What are the recommendations made?? The diagnonsense in itself is so diverse and so complex I can guarantee most lof the /a don't even understand it. Your biggest barrier here & hurdel you ned to learn to jump over is akin to disability discrimination as the l/a only understand what the worst case scenario can be in terms of parenting for families who have a parent with BPD. I am told this diagnosis is certainly the kiss of death in terms of parenting & in my own experience it has been! However this where I can be of help with the dynamics & of how to overcome the obstacles with ss. IT CAN BE DONE

As I stated before BPD is such a broad spectrum almost 99% of the population would show traits if they were psychologically evaluated, and this is true. Right now you have to prove what was said re your diagnosis to be incorrect & keep proving it. I.e. if you were said to be manipulative, prove them wrong, if you were said the be unstable (this is the most common in psychological assessments) prove you are not. How?? Easy, remain in the same home, do not move unless absolutely necessary, if you are single remain so, if you are employed remain in your current position. These are signs of stability or instability. Anyone who has been through DV would show signs of a PD as they are learning to become independent. Moving on from DV should be recognised here & they should acknowledge you have been strong enough to get out!!!!

Turning to contact there is something you can do to be pro-active here. (I was threatened by a service manager & deputy service manager in 2006. They told me that if I did not place my eldest child in their care then I would never see my younger 4 children again. This was stated in the presence of an independent witness, a support worker from another organisation!!) However do not fall for threats as I sadly did. The l/a use threats & bullying tactics all the time.

You have rights re contact to your children. Firstly you should write to the l/a stating the following:

1. Respectfully remind them they have a legal duty to promote 'Reasonable Contact' (this means contact that is agreeable between the l/a & the parent).
2. Also state that 'where there is no such agreement they have a legal duty to promote 'Objectively Reasonable Contact, which is not contact at the local authorities discretion' (This is clearly what you have in regards to contact with your younger children).

The latter gives you some weight to bargain to increase of contact to your children. If you do write to the l/a you could state that you wish for an increase in the duration & frequency of the contacts.

Please note: The local authority cannot stop contact with you without the courts permission to do so, although they have the power to suspend contact for a period of 7 days in an emergency where they are satisified it is necessary to do so in order to promote and safeguard the child's welfare. If the l/a follow this course of action they must write stating why contact has been suspended, and how their decision can be challenged in court. This would usually mean you applying to court for a S. 34 Contact Order.

There is much Government research and guidelines regarding contact for children in local authority care & I am posting a link to the Family Rights Group factsheet on contact with children in care. Print this off & highlight all that would relevant to you.

http://www.frg.org.uk/pdfs/14.%20Contac ... 20care.pdf

The local authority may well try to dismiss any letter & requests for an increase in contact, and the key here is persistence, do not let them ignore you. Request they acknowledge your letter immedaitely & respond to your letter. 10 working days is an appropriate timescale to expect a response. If they are surprisingly agreeable to any increase ASK FOR IT IN WRITING.

If you want to gain some very valuable information re Borderline Personlity Disorder the best reading material I have come across since my diagnonsense 5 years ago is a book entitled:

New Hope For Those With Borderline Personality Disorder by Dr Neil Bockian, available online from Amazon.

I have used this as my bible since purchasing it & I have found it extremely useful. During an inpatient psyche admission some of the RMN's asked to loan it to read during their shifts & stated that they found it very informative, and that it gave them a better insight & undertsanding of the dynamics of BPD. The book is written by a clinician but do not be put off by that as it is a useful book to have.

Also try to purchase a DVD called 'Girl Interrupted' it stars Winnona Ryder, whoopi Goldberg, Vanessa Redgrave & Angelina Jolie. It is about a young woman diagnosed with BPD. Watch & realise you are 'Normal'

Hi justiceforbabye

On your petition it says you were incorrectly diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder not Borderline Personality disorder. Could you just clarify which one is correct, as I assume it was Bi-polar as you are responding to anti depression drugs.

Thanks