Justice For Families

i am a mum with a total of 7 children 4 of whom i have not had regular contact with for almost 2 yrs i have a set of twins aged almost 4 and a baby aged 15 mths, social services and cafcass are penalising me as i was abused sexually when i was a child. It all started when i split with the father to 6 of the children he decided that he wanted full residency of the 4 older children i could not dispute this as i had previously given him the child bensfit book and sole tenancy of our home, (i had gone thru pre cancerois cells of cervix and being 22 at the time i belived i was going to die) with him having sole tenancy he kicked me out of the house on new years eve at 10pm with no where to go.
I then found out i was pregnant with his twins i contacted him and told him the news (not so we could get bk together ) just as he had the right to know, the twins were born almost 3 mths early i had to struggle with this going 60 miles to hospital every day to be with them. He did not visit them at all during this time as he said he could not be the father, i then had dna testing done to prove who the father was yes it was him,,,,,. Since our twins have been walking ie most of hard work of baby is over he has been trying to gain residency of them, Caffcass and social services are involved and they have stated as i have contact with my mother of whom did not know about the abuse i am unfit and would not be able to protect my children namley the twins however the baby is safe in my care (as he has a different father). I have been made to go thru my ordel as a child time and time again i have been to sexual awareness councilling i have been to anger management councilling i have been to protection awareness councilling i have been to psycotherpy all of who have said i am stable and able minded to care and protect my children however social services and cafcass feel differently. I am not prepared to lay down and let them walk all over me like they have done so for the last 4 yrs i know i have a big fight on my hands and i prepared for that i need more ppl that have had the same sort of experiances to come forward and help i cannot do this alone so please contact me as a matter of urgency. I got bk to court on 20th march this year for a final hearing due in april i do not have a lot of time, life without my twins is not even worth thinkin about i do not want to another statistic for the courts i am a good mum i have done everything that the courts social services and cafcass have asked of me in the last 4 yrs including doing all the travelling for my ex husband to have contact with his twins, the system does not give a damm about the children in my opion nor does it care about the amount that the main carer actually has with the child. Please contact me if u can help pam 07938 685818

Theres lots of women on mothers for justice site who are going through these custody battles. They could advise.


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The SS and CAFCASS use these arguments all the time.

They have access to your medical records and will turn them around, against you.
It's not so much what's in them, just that they have to "fabricate" a reason.

So people, the SS went back to incidents when they were 6 years old. So don't feel this is just you. It's fabricating a case against you, from whatever they can.

If the baby isn't being threatened then the good news, is that you're a good mum. you just have an awkward ex. I'm guessing he wants the kids for state benefits? okay, I could be being harsh here, but there is a motivation if he couldn't be bothered to see them as babies.

Okay, the main stipulation is that you don't contact your mother?
have you given that undertaking...
And don't think you can call your mum and they won't know.
All phone calls, text, land line, mobiles are recorded. If you have called your mum, then the SS via the police can pull that data and the actual recording, as it's taped, and held indefinately.
If you've been speaking to your mum, they'll dig for the evidence.

Are you willing to end this relationship with your mum,? I accept that she maybe innocent, but the SS clearly don't think so.
So are you willing to not have contact with her until the children are say 16 years old?

Well done Pam for being strong and willing to fight this. I am hoping to find a couple of people who could call you with some helpfull fighting tips.

Chrissie