Justice For Families

Sorry to keep troubling you all but its been another day with a whole host of problems as per usual with my case. One thing i have learnt is expect the unexpected. We found out early this morning that a family member had been contacted by the foster carer (who had looked after my child for the first 9 months before he was placed in the family) to ask for contact. This family member only has contact for 1 afternoon a week but had planned to take the child to meet the foster carer. My husband and i were livid because we knew nothing about it until the social worker had told the family members who are caring for my child at 9.30 this morning. After a lot of serious phonecalls it was cancelled but only for today. Now SS are saying that the child has a bond with the foster carer and it needs to be upheld. I have instructed my solicitor to tell them if she wants to see the child she'll have to go and ask the judge. SS though are saying that because they have an ICO they decide who sees my child. I thought foster carers were doing a job i don't understand why after 10 weeks she wants contact. I would be grateful to know what other people thought and if you could shed any light on why it's become a problem no matter how speculative your views are i would be grateful.

Thank you

The foster carer is well out of order!!!!!!

The law says CA 1989 S10 (i think) that only people who have been significantly involved with the child for 3 years or more can apply to the court for contact.

So there are no laws that allow the f/c to have contact.

The SS have PR and can choose who sees the child. In this case, you are raising objection and you weren't consulted, so you have every right to be angry/upset. I think this s/w actions deserve a strongly worded formal complaint! Both to the GSCC and the complaints dept of SS.

I have a niggly feeling that the family member and foster carer want the child to keep in contact, so the family member can leave the child with the f/c from time to time. Leaving the child with a f/c that the child knows is easier....or to make matters worse, the family member might want to give the child back to SS.

I smell a rat somewhere......

To add. I think you should put your formal objection in writing to the LA, so your objections are noted. Send a copy of your letter to the court to put on file. Show the Judge that the LA are behaving badly and putting other adults ahead of you who is the parent of the child.

Hi NRP

The family member who arranged it isn't the one who looks after my baby full time. The family members who have him full time don't ship him out. SS are saying we have to remember who brought him up!

I think this is shocking - do you know why the fc wants contact?

Mary wrote:Hi NRP

The family member who arranged it isn't the one who looks after my baby full time. The family members who have him full time don't ship him out. SS are saying we have to remember who brought him up!

The SS telling you to remember who brought the child up???? I hope you reminded the person telling you this that if it weren't for child snatcher intrusion and child snatcher abuse then you wouldn't be having any problems and nor would your child. The f/c would not have to ask anything and the government would be financially better off.

The f/c can only claim a right in law if the f/c was significantly involved with the child for 3 years or more. (I have a reservation because there is a time period of a year for something but I can't remember what....i think it's something to do with adoption)

I would be telling the f/c to "get lost". I suspect the f/c wants to keep involvement so they can get more money from the state for your child........ If you felt that grateful for the theft of your child and the f/c looking after your child then you would welcome the f/c into the child's life.

we been told by s s that they are going for a s g o speail gardionship order
and that copme into efftct in.. less than 8mouths tops now you saythey carnt do that untill 3years id like to know what we can do to stop them as the f c poved to be just as bad as the s s they like them wont let us speak or anything with the girls advice plz dorm an bogo

I think it's better for you to email Emily.

Special Guardianship counts towards the local councils Adoption stats.

ohhhhh dose it nowwww thanksss uk sercret dorm

ive sent an email now two her i am sooo sick these people who just steal our children like there nothing dorm

FC requesting contact with a child is very suspicious in my opinion, be very very wary!!!

I like NRP smell a dirty sewer rat!!!!

yews there where all for my wife to be they know her for 20 years,,now couse money is there they sudly wont let us see the kids just like soical sevices its prue evil

dorm

I have it worded in final statements the same sex foster carers who were kept on a retainer for 1 year to see if the child our child would bond with the dead beat father NRP for many years just married months before the court proceedings got a supervision placement post final hearing.The father played the game until he got the placement an something went wrong in the 1 year supervision period.The FC has respite care of our son. My son turned up minus mouth-care an most important medication. Poor child had no medication for 2 weeks as the idiots SS never done a parenting assessment. The father could not read and write and had a memory problem. My son had 3 years chemotherapy and what is called maintenance.
The father objected to them saying they loved our son buying a T-shirt an staying involved. They were LA teachers 1 of them an the father was livid when they were called for court as witnesses. There was no residence order until the regime of medication was over an the child was out of the woods .The father was nice as pie to the FC until he got custody and then he raved about their sexuality being an issue. I would rather the father have him than the same sex couple an that is a fact .
At £500 a week they would not want to let go of contact. They could not enforce this on the child. They FC would not let me have fone calls allowed the father and would not even let me know when he was due in hospital for appointments or confined due to having viral infections.

Thank you for your email regarding Contact Details.

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dorm

Dear dorm and bogo



Thank you for your email dated the 5 November 2009 the contents of which have been noted.



After making enquiries we understand that that the staff mentioned in your email work for Derby City Council and we have therefore forwarded your email to

Sian Hoyle,

Complaints Manager

Derby City Council

27 St Mary’s Gate

Derby

with a request that she contacts you directly regarding the issues you have raised.



regards

dorm this what i got back so far